just found this thread. i just had to contribute with:

my mom's RO isn't big on giving details about her cancer or her treatment. everytime we wanted to know something, we had to ask twice, sometimes even three times. it's been like this since the very first meeting. his answer to almost every question that first day was:

"wow, you did a lot of research. don't study too much."

that's when i knew, as a caregiver, that i had to go to WAR.

soo.

That is so true. Our local oncologists don't even bring up treatments that they don't offer in their clinic.
While research is a good thing to be aware of options, IMHO it's also important to not get too caught up in all you read/find online and take it one day at a time.

Standing in line at the store and one of the tabloids said, in bold headlibes, "Michael Douglas prepares for death". They even had a photo puportedly of the burial plot he has picked out. Do these people just make stuff up out of thin air?

CMMoore brings up a good point on not getting too caught up on what you read. Don't you just hate it when you open the newspaper or go to health website and there's a lead story about a big new breakthru in cancer treatment that won't require all the pain and suffering of radiation, chemo or surgery and then it turns out that its a research report on yet another cure for cancer in mice or in-vitro cells. And worse, when well meaning friends send you links to it or raise it in conversation.
Charm

All the emails and links to "cures" are very frustrating. Even though I know my family means well, they still point out all the people who have cured their cancer naturally, just change his diet they say and it will work.... sheesh

I guess we just have to tell people that we trust our doctors - and dentists as well. My dentist is the one who caught my cancer, and he has me doing the flouride trays every day one of my co-workers told me "flouride is bad for you." But I just told her that I trusted my dentist, and I wanted to keep my teeth as long as I could.

Right, "I heard about this place down in Mexico...".

Hey, what happened to this thread? Now I get even more ridiculous remarks from people.

Most of you know I am now a colon cancer patient. My "friend" knows how to cure me - eat lemons. So if you guys ever get colon cancer, remember that!! lol

That is just crazy!!

She's the same one that told me to eat asparagus for oral cancer. Are you guys eating your asparagus??