I'm the same age as your hubby...and I was a good and bad patient. Sometimes things were fine and other times it was just down right hard. If it wasn't for my GF and parents I would have never made it through this ordeal and the people on this site helped me get through it too. Everyone needs help...and not just the patient.

Men and women...in very primitive terms a man is a hunter and a woman is a nestor and when something disturbs that very basic instinct things can get messy. Like others suggested, I would consider therapy.

take care and stay strong

7-16-08 age 37@Dx, T3N0M0 SCC 4.778cm tumor, left side of oral tongue, non smoker, casual drinker, I am the 4th in my family to have H&N cancer
8-13-08 left neck dissection and 40% of tongue removed, submandibular salivary gland & 14 nodes clean, no chemo, IMRTx35
11-4-08 Recovering & feeling better