Philly, wow, that's a tough one. I can say I relate to your husband as we are around the same age and know I would have given up with the treatments and surgeries a few times if I didn't have my "why" to live.

A quote from Nietzche "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how."" - that I read in Victor Frankl's book "Mans Search For Meaning" really put things in perspective for me. Frankl basically wrote about his life in a concentration camp and what it did to him and others mentally and emotionally and it was a huge help for me when I thought about quiting. I'm a stage 4 survivor and am lucky to be breathing now, but there are others that had a much harder road then I traveled and if they could do it, by God I could. My beautiful, young wife and two children are my "why" and without that focus for the fight I don't think I would've made it this far.

I know it may not be much help, but I have a copy I can send you if you would like. He's scared and that is OK, but he sounds like he's letting his fear rule him and that just won't do. Seeking professional help is wise too and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

My heart goes out for you and your David, I wish I could be of more help.

Eric