Donna
you must never forget that for some time you have had two families.One of them totally understands where you are and where you are coming from ,so thats the one to turn too at times like these.Its a waste of energy trying to explain to "outsiders" who never really want to hear anything except that you are ok.This is sometimes because they are too scared by the unknown and also because the word cancer scares the bejesus out of them.
Don't waste your time sweetie,and if you need a buddy to speak to about families,i would have a chat with Patty.

chin up chick and no more of this negative crap.We need you
love liz