Hi Gary,
You now have first hand knowledge of both sides which is very unfortunate indead. The only benifit to this is you are aware of how your wife feels. I agree with staying in the now and try to do that. I wish you both the best in this very trying time. This is a great place to vent and move on. For that I am very grateful to you all.
I work in a psych hospital and believe it or not talking to people with problems helps me forget mine and when I get home I'm kinda talked out. My situation here hasn't improved my husband is trying very hard and most of the time so am I . I just had a need to vent moment when I posted and just typing it was a release. I don't gaurentee I won't have another one but I know where to find some great people. Again thanks to all of you for your support. I hopeI can be there for anyone when they need it too.
Take Care
Diane