Carol,
I am near your daughter's age and have wished many times that my mama was here through this, yet feel maybe God spared her ... but times like this we miss them more than ever, that is for sure... I have cried many times, wishing I had her prayers and support when I felt so alone in my fears.

So, as a daughter, thank you for being there for your daughter in whatever manner she can allow you at any given time. I think you will find your role in this will change through the course of time and treatment, so be ready for that... and if she takes her worries and fears and pain out on you, please don't take it personal. As kids we seem to think momma can make everything better ... and sometimes that is just not possible, though we as mother;s want to make it better ...

as far as her hubby - remember he is scared too - and as a man he wants to be able to fix it and this time, he can't ... so this is a new place for him and he will not like it one bit.

i am sure you will find your niche, and will be very helpful to them both. learning a lot can be a lot of help but it can also bring a lot of fear ... so please do not get so absorbed in learning that it is all you think of and in the negative sense... keep a positive stance that she WILL beat this and will do well through treatment.