I cant believe your story, the first I knew about oral cancer was my mum being diagnosed with base tongue cancer (she gave up smoking 25 yrs ago) she has had all the surgery and now will have radiotherapy and we have to have hope! What I understand about you is there is no rime or reason - why? No alcohol, no smoking, just bad luck, Im 37 and that would make me mad - Im mad about my mun, but I realise that there are so many survivors out there, and that makes you one of the bravest people alive!