"Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) Joined: Jul 2007 Posts: 939 | David,
My sister and family live next door to us. We have been very close since our boys were born within months 30 years ago. I moved here from Texas to help her take care of my Mom. She is a closet smoker, at least around us...I never see her but I smell it in her car and garage.
She went thru the trauma of Bill's DX and treatment almost as intimately as I did. Also, a very close friend of hers is dying of lung cancer after years of chain smoking. Neither of these events have caused her to quit. I DON'T GET IT!
I told her once several years ago that I knew she smoked and I was worried about her and that I count not stand by and not say something...so I said it and then told her I would never lecture her again...that I knew it was her battle to fight.
I have not said anything since. It's hard and senseless and incomprehensible from a non-smoker's viewpoint. I love her and I am scared for her.
Deb
Deb..caregiver to husband, age 63 at diagnosis, former smoker who quit in 1997. DIAGNOSIS: 6/26/07 SCC right tonsil/BOT T4N0M0 TREATMENT START: 8/9/07 cisplatin/taxol X 7..IMRT twice daily X 31.5. TREATMENT END: 10/1/07 PEG OUT: 1/08 PORT OUT: 4/09 FOLLOWUP: Now only annual exams. ALL CLEAR!
Passed away 1/7/17 RIP Bill
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