It's very hard and there is no easy way of going down this road. I'm one of seven siblings and when we all needed to pull together in a time of need...I was the only one there...So, don't feel bad that you were an only child but rather you are the twinkle in your mothers eye and that you two love and care for each other unconditionally. Tell your mother that you love her and give her at least one big long tight hug everyday. Good thoughts and time will have to take care of the rest.

7-16-08 age 37@Dx, T3N0M0 SCC 4.778cm tumor, left side of oral tongue, non smoker, casual drinker, I am the 4th in my family to have H&N cancer
8-13-08 left neck dissection and 40% of tongue removed, submandibular salivary gland & 14 nodes clean, no chemo, IMRTx35
11-4-08 Recovering & feeling better