People continue to baffle me. I have had several people comment on my smoking and not very politely either. Basically you brought this on yourself. Made me feel smaller than small. I wish they would know that I am already hard on myself with this. My doctor said this is emphatically why I have cancer. I have no idea about the HPV virus I still have yet to check that one out but figure why bother cause it was smoking that caused mine.

Until I met one lady who put it so I didn't beat myself up over it anymore. Her comments true or otherwise they certainly made me feel better. Something about we all have cancer in us and if the stars align properly and god willing we will not get cancer. She compared cancer to a twister hits some and misses others. Smoking may have been a contributing factor but she said that was the past and now is now.

I agree with Jerry and just say yes or no and leave it at that!!

My best wishes to your mom also...She is lucky to have a daughter so protective and loving..