Michelle- Just say what comes to you at the time. You'll begin to realize who wants the truth and who wants the fantasy version. I've also gotten the juice cure bull. That stuff is actually counter-productuve to H&N cancer. Just tell them you'll give it a try, that's what they want to hear. It makes them feel important. People don't really know how to act unless they've been thru this hell. I don't think I ever did. I keep hoping this will make me a better person in times of crisis for others. Something good has to come of all this. I'm so sorry about the family members that won't face what you are going through. Maybe it's too painful for them. My inlaws are great howwever, i know if it was my sibling I would be a little more heplful.
Your mom's passing is such a tragedy for you, especially now I'm sure. My mom can be a pain but I cannot imagine life without her and your story makes be pause to remember that. Keep your head up. You are a wonderful person with a lot on your plate right now so take care of yourself also.
Sue