Michele - I think many of us have experienced exactly what you are finding. A couple of my close friends also seem to "disappear" - but luckily I had several who were right there supporting me. Even members of my own family - my brother and his wife were practically non -existent during this time, and even now whenever I go for my 3 month checkups if they happen to know they just say "oh, it will be fine, I'm sure of it". My sister is another story - right there supporting me and understanding how scary this all was and still is each time I go for tests, etc. So, even though I was the patient, not the CG, I certainly saw the same things you are seeing.... I try not to hold it against people, but sometimes it is hard not to resent it...