Michelle,

I came on to this site a few weeks ago because my mom was diagnosed with cancer and I wanted to research as much as I could. While doing that, you caught my attention. Maybe it is because we are the same age and I have young children too. I'm not sure but I have been, I guess you can say, tracking Dans progress and yours. I have wanted to post to you but have been hesitant. My heart goes out to you because I know your world has just been turned upside down. Your strength is truly inspiring.

I am experiencing something similar with my best friend. It is very hurtful but I think she is trying to protect herself in some way. If it does continue, I will be honest with her and tell her how I am feeling. I would hate to lose a lifelong friendship because I didn't communicate what I needed and expected from her. Maybe you should be honest with your friend and tell her how you feel. It can't hurt and maybe you'll feel better after you do. What do you have to lose.

I do have a sort of funny story about one friend (who I am not very close with anymore.) The day my father in law died of lung cancer (not the funny part) I was extremely upset. My husband was with his mom and brothers and I was home alone with the kids. I was really upset and needed a friend so I called one. I was crying and pouring my soul and while I was in mid sentence, she said she had to go because her sons ring pop broke and he was very upset. I was stunned. I actually stopped crying and started laughing. I mean, how cold is that? Needless to say, that was the beginning of the end of that friendship. My point is, people who have not been faced with illness just don't know how to react.

I'm sorry I am going on and on. I wish you and your husband the best and will keep you in my prayers. My journey will really begin on Wed. when my mom has her surgery. I hope I will have your strength to get through this.

Denise