Sue, from the patient's perspective, I wish my husband would go to counseling more often. I'd feel better knowing he was getting help with it.

On the fingertips, Erbitux really dries out all of your skin and the fingertips crack easily. I always wear gloves when washing dishes or doing anything where my hands get wet. At night I put neosporin or vaseline on the cracks and then put band-aids over them. He can also try those cotton moisturizing gloves from the drugstore, covering his hands in thick lotion or vaseline and then sleeping with the gloves on. I've gotten the fingers pretty much under control this way. For the face rash, if it's not too out of control(mostly zits, not open sores), there's a prescription cream called clindomycin that you can ask the Dr for. It doesn't always help but it doesn't hurt either.
I'll keep my fingers crossed for his scan.
Melissa