Melissa- Thanks for the advice. I actually have been thinking about getting some help. Although I feel like if my husband is "handling" this-I should be able to also. I know that's a stupid way to think of it. The Erbitux is definitely better than the radiation but his fingers tips are split and the rash has begun on his face. He hasn't had solid food since September and has lost alot of weight. He really didn't have it to lose. The doctor told us the other day that he will most likely have several more doses and then do another scan to see if it's working. By then he should be post-surgery enough to get some kind of prothesis to help him eat. Thanks again, Sue