It's hard seeing one's parents so frail when you are used to seeing them strong. I went though that with my Dad the last few years as he suffered from congestive heart disease (I'm in my late 40s).

Having been through oral cancer treatment myself, though, I CAN say that your Dad will get better as time goes on. It's just that it will be a slow recovery and right now he is at the worst of the worst point.

The most important thing to get him through this point is to make sure he is getting adequate pain relief, adequate nutrition and adequate rest. Those last two things are what will help him heal and the former is just simply what any cancer patient should get. And I think you're doing a great job being a support for your mom since caregivers also start to feel crazy during this after-treatment but before improvement time.

Come here to vent anytime! Venting is what needs to happen to get through this....

Nelie