Hey... everything's going to work out just as planned - now what that is, we have no way of knowing, but that's the way it's going to unfold, and in the long run all of the suffering and worrying and fretting that we do has its place... all of those things are relevant and help us cope. Those who brought us here did so with a purpose in mind, but as time progresses the purpose seems to change... did our parents bring us here for our support in the end? or simply to share life with us, and to show us the beauty of the world and of life and living and sharing... maybe all of these reasons are why we are here... to support, to appreciate the beauty of life and living and sharing... but the saddest part of it all is that it can't last forever. We live through our parents, our children live through us... and that part of you who is your great grandmother understands exactly where you are this very moment. We must consider making the best we can with what we have, being thankful for whatever it is and remember, also, that someone, someplace has got it worse than we. We are only human, and that's all we can be, human. No one of us is more human than the other, nor can we be. It is an impossiblity. Compassion and understanding is often the best, and only, consideration we have to offer. Just some thoughts evoked through your plea... hopefully to help you wander so not alone.