Glad we have been able to help.Its a truly scary thing this oral cancer,and my husbands 17 year old daughter struggled so hard not to let her dad see how frightened she was at seeing him so badly disfigured.Perhaps the fact that you can see so graphically what is happening to your loved one ,is the hardest thing to bear.Just fix that smile on your face and save your tears for the privacy of your room or your mums shoulder dont let him see how much you are hurting.I know its hard,but treating him normally is the best gift you can give him.

love liz

Liz in the UK

Husband Robin aged 44 years Dx 8th Dec 2006 poorly differentiated SCC tongue with met to neck T1N2cM0 Surgery and Radiation.Finished TX April 2007
Recurrence June/07 died July 29th/07.

Never take your eye off the ball, it may just smack you in the mouth.