I have been visiting this site for some time and reading everything I can. Miss Kate was a great help when I first found this site. She gave me hope. I need more. My soul aches for my brother. He had a total glossectomy in September after 2 years of removing bits of his tongue and going through radiation. After the surgery we knew that his life would change and I think we all accepted. Even with his trach and g-tube he began to speak. Although it was hard to understand at first, we were getting used to it. A couple of weeks later his swelling was worse and he began to have "choking" episodes. After a pet scan, the cancer was discovered again under the new floor, which was created from leg muscle and later replaced with one from his chest.(1 week after surgery). He began his 3 rounds of chemo last month and has fallen into a deep depression. He was an active father and a police officer. Loosing his job has been very hard. I tell my mother (who cares for him) that his anger and depression will pass with time. I do this for her own sanity. I don't blame him at all for being angry. I am asking anyone out there: What words of comfort can I give him? He seems to have lost hope and does not want to hear about having faith. My family prays for him to have the strength to beat this but I am afraid of the reality of this horrible "thing". My prayers are with all.