Hi Amy,
I don't feel Gary's comment about dying was inappropriate in any way. Scary maybe, but not inappropriate. Please keep in mind that this board IS scary, none of us WANTS to be here. Lives have been saved by the words given out on this board. Gino is facing a life/death situation right now, so any mention of death is certainly warranted. If Gary didn't care, he wouldn't comment. Also keep in mind that all of us on this board think of death every single day, and some of us have been for quite some time now. A lesson in the fear of this cancer or how it makes us feel is not needed, we've been living with it on a daily basis.
Now, before I come across as being cranky, please don't feel that I am. I feel strongly about the decision that Gino has in front of him. It's why I posted about Marcy and why Gary made the comment he did. I don't think that we have any posters on here that had mets to the neck and didn't have radiation. I wonder why.
Minnie

SCC Left Mandible. Jaw replaced with bone from leg. Neck disection, 37 radiation treatments. Recurrence 8-28-07, stage 2, tongue. One third of tongue removed 10-4-07. 5-23-08 chemo started for tumor behind swallowing passage, Our good friend and much loved OCF member Minnie has been lost to the disease (RIP 10-29-08). We will all miss her greatly.