All of the above, plus:

1) Accept any help offered
2) Write everything down--appointments, medications, side effects, feelings
3) Record every single PLUS POINT--achieving is sometimes achieved just by coping!--a smile or a mouthful of water deserves 2 stars!!
4) For you AND dad---don't be afraid to bawl your eyes out when you need to.
5) Don't blame anyone or anything--just accept and take 1 day at a time towards healing.
Just my '5 cents' worth

Brenda

Brenda in UK--Diagnosis 30/5/07--undifferentiated carcinoma in right jawbone and muscles. Stage 4
6/7/07--new diagnosis primary is in lung. Finished 4cycles of palliative carboplatin/gemcitabine
therapy September 07
Now dying to live!