Laura ,i guess no body is actually going through what you are at the moment,but a lot of folks are going through and have been through the stress and anxiety you are experiencing.

I am very surprised that you doctor was so unsympathetic to your feelings,i would have thought a low dose anti anxiety drug would have helped you through the next few days, and i camt see it doing any harm long term.
Your situation must be awful and stress and tension can often cause the pains you describe in you neck.

I know it is pointless to say sit down,take a deep breath and try to relax,BUT - sit down take a deep breath and try to relax.

liz