Karen,
My wife and I love the island. That's where we're going to retire. We have some property near Telegraph Cove that I hope will be our home address soon.
I'm feeling your pain. My Dad is suffering with inoperable lung cancer as well. He went through a complete series of radiation and had one chemo treatment.
The chemo made him so ill that he was hospitalized twice, and they will not continue with additional treatment. Now, whatever the cancer will do is anyone's guess.
We do have an amazing system here. It's not perfect by a long stretch, but at times like this, it's wonderful not to be faced with additional worry.
I wish for your Mom to find peace. With the love of her family I'm sure she will. Be there for your Dad too. I'm thinking about you all
Wayne