Tonya,

I am so sorry it has come to this I, like Minnie, was concerned about the pain David has been experiencing. I felt it was a strong possibility that the cancer was not gone, but it so hard to tell that to someone. Especially before they are ready to hear it.

As for the smell, we experienced that also. The last couple weeks or so, I started burning strong aromatic candles constantly to try to combat it. Cinnamon ones seemed to work well.

It is very possible that David's daughter is sensing that things aren't right. Heather's daughter, who was 6 at the time, definitely had a sense of what was happening. She actually asked me, just a couple weeks before Heather died, when I thought her mom was going to die. Not if, but when. I believe her words were something like this - grandma, how many days do you think it will be before my mom dies? You can tell that she was very aware of the situation. If I may make a suggestion, be as truthful with your neice as you can. I think Cati handled her mother's death fairly well because we didn't lie to her about what to expect.

And definitely call hospice, as long as David agrees. We didn't have hospice in until near the end, because Heather didn't want them and I couldn't go against her wishes. Hopefully David will allow them in sooner because they are a great help. Please feel free to private message or email me directly if I can help.


Rosie