Ah, yet another reason to wear your Walkman during treatment. My oncologist and first ENT did no talking behind my back. The ENT was mad at me, told me to get my affairs in order, I had a very advanced cancer. The oncologist gave me a page with the statistical probabilities based on the staging with the 38% 5 year survival rate highlighted. No sugarcoating here. At least I couldn't hear worse news anywhere else ;-)
I actually made up my own sound track for chemo and radiation (they had a decent sound system in the radiation cell - it would be hard to wear a Walkman with headphones, not to mention the radiation probably would not be good for it)). I figured it was better than listening to all of those damn voices in my head.