I agree with Helen, visit him, that is what is important, and its is ok if he sees you are sadden too.

I think the bond between my husband and I was strengthened when we shared that we were both scared or worried.

You are doing a lot by being there for him - you don't always need to be strong.

Try to rest up while he is in the hospital. Wishing him the best of recovery, and glad you found the OCF family.

michelle

by the way, where in NZ are you from? Post surgery & rad we traveled to S & N islands - what a beautiful and varied country it is!