Hi Charm; This is a tough one for sure and your distress is understandable. I cried several buckets before I saw the doc and asked for something to help me keep my composure. I agree with Danny, something mild to help get you over the rough spots is good use of modern meds available. You will need all your strength to continue in that precious role of caregiver and helpmate to your husband.
I wish there was some sort of medal that could be given to the SCC patients' partners. You are invaluable folks.
I hope we can offer you some real support here- keep posting.
All the best,
Fran