Donna--never mind baring your teeth---Go bite those whingeing people.
Get on the phone with mom's brother and also any other friends and relatives she has to hep her out with her house, so she only has GOOD things to talk about!

I know what you mean about not wanting to ring people--you expect they would just want to come by anyway. I used to get so frustrated and upset trying to find subtle ways to ask my sisters and brother when they were coming--in the end, I just had to yell at my older sis on the phone one night and told her it seemed to dad that none of the rest of his family cared for him--he really did feel that way sometimes.

You're not a mean and complaining person, you're a wonderful Caregiver to your mom--which, as you know, she appreciates. You're also supporting your dad and have Eddie and the kids to think about as well--don't be hard on yourself!

As for your mom's negativity--well that happens to us sometimes, and whilst we'd often prefer to have our weeps in private, the just 'get on with it' again, it doesn't always happen that way--and we can't often BE on our own--bit of a see-saw between needing/wanting solitude and company.
And you thought YOU sounded crazy!

Remember to take care of yourself Donna and keep reminding yourself what a great job you're doing!
Thinking of you,

love Brenda
But you're bound to get tired--it's been going on for a long time now