Hi Sammie, Of coure you're not superwoman, but all caregivers feel responsible to be that at some point. I can completely relate to your feeling like you just can't do this again - it's normal. You will find a way. As for family - well those are the people who love and support us, the rest are relatives that you don't have to deal with at this time. If you have a good support network of friends turn to them. I'm sure they won't consider this imposing.

In addition to this forum support groups many be available or phone counseling from cancer care. They focus on either the patient or caregiver. There are moments when none of us want to do it no matter how together we are. It's an emotional roller coaster. The good news is that passes and you go on to other and hopefully better moments. It's situational.

Hydration and nutrtion are really key in going thru chemo radiation so that's a good, tangible place to focus. Also as Minnie said pain management has a lot to do with overall outlook, if what he's using isn't working let the nurses and doctors know so they can change it. The duragesic patch is useful and comes in varying doses but there are many many good drugs.

What's past is past. Sometimes microscopic cancer cells are hiding and they can't be detected until they grow to a certain level. It does sound like you are satisfied with this medical team and that's what's important now. Let us know how both of you are doing.

Regards JoAnne