Whew! Liz, it really sounds like you could use a break! Robin must be in a lot of pain, physically and emotionally to be reacting the way he is, but you certainly don't deserve to be treated that way. Have you talked to his doctor about whether he might need medication to handle the stress or some talk therapy with someone experienced with cancer patients? Does Robin have anyone he can talk to (besides you) about what he is going through? As CG to my son there were times when I felt he wasn't doing the things he should to recover and I could tell he was in a lot of pain. At one point when he wouldn't eat or drink anything, I even yelled at him telling him I did not want to be the only one trying to get us through this whole experience of cancer and that he had to help, too! And then I walked out and drove home, crying all the way and feeling very guilty about having yelled at him. We did get through it and things are so much better, now. Of course you will get through it, too. According to other posts I've read, seems like being irritable sometimes goes along with the recovery process. In the meantime, think about doing something nice for yourself.