I posed this caregiver question to my husband and this was his response:

He said that during my diagnosis, surgery and radiation that all thoughts of himself left and he coped by focusing on me and the girls. I suspect that may be how men caregivers deal with it. My husband took on the role of doing whatever was needed to make me comfortable and whatever kept homelife consistant for the girls. He was, in my humble opinion, the epitome of caregivers. He set aside his own needs to take care of mine and it certainly made our already strong marriage even stronger.

SCC Left Mandible. Jaw replaced with bone from leg. Neck disection, 37 radiation treatments. Recurrence 8-28-07, stage 2, tongue. One third of tongue removed 10-4-07. 5-23-08 chemo started for tumor behind swallowing passage, Our good friend and much loved OCF member Minnie has been lost to the disease (RIP 10-29-08). We will all miss her greatly.