Hi Charlotte, I thought I'd give the first one a try about the attention I need as a spouse.

It was easy for me to vent to my sisters and friends about my feelings but the person I really wanted to talk to was Jack. One day we were going about our normal lives and the next day all the rules changed. After 25 years of marriage I didn't know what to say to my husband and the silence was deafening. What I need as a spouse is to still feel that I am the other half of a couple, 2 people who talk to each other and make decisions together. I need to feel we still have emotional and physical connections, and that there's hope for making new dreams to replace the ones cancer has taken from us.

Regards JoAnne