Hello Everyone,
I am Charlotte, wife of Tom who posts frequently on this forum, and caregiver to him while he was in treatment and recovery. This post is me introducing myself to you here, and also asking for your help.

Tom and I are co-editing the exciting and upcoming book from OCF, Getting Through It. The table of contents (TOC) is in its third version, which will be posted soon. Version 2.5 is up; if you haven't yet checked it out, this will give you a good picture of how the book is developing

General format is question/answer, with answers coming from you, the members of this forum. If you choose to respond, you will be identified by first name and state. Please keep your responses brief, on the topic, and limit each response to the issue presented. If you have other thoughts or topics to suggest, please post those separately. All of the questions submitted thus far for Chapter 8--Your Spouse, Caregivers and Children have been included.

Lots of us are nervous about seeing our thoughts in print and may be hesitant to jump in here. Please let us hear from you. The book is anecdotal, meant to represent the experiences of those who are "getting throught it" day by day. We aren't looking for the "experts", just those of us who've been there and can give comfort and guidance to those who need it.

Here's what I need from you now: If you wish, please respond to the following two questions.

1. What attention do I need as a spouse? It's happening to me, too!

2. How do I deal with the guilt that it's not ME?

Thanks, everyone. I look forward to hearing from you.
Charlotte