 Contributing Member (25+ posts)
Joined: Sep 2005 Posts: 36 | 1. What attention do I need as a spouse? It's happening to me, too!
ITS A WE/US SITUATION. ITS NOT ABOUT WHAT A GREAT JOB YOU ARE DOING AS A SPOUSE, ITS ABOUT HOW YOU ARE HANDLING THE SITUATION TOGETHER AND WHAT OTHERS CAN DO FOR BOTH OF YOU
2. How do I deal with the guilt that it's not ME?
YOU DEAL WITH IT ONE DAY AT A TIME AND HANDLE IT THE WAY YOU WOULD WANT YOUR SPOUSE TO DEAL WITH THE SITUATION IF IT WERE YOU.
YOU TALK ABOUT IT AND NOT FEEL SORRY FOR YOUR SPOUSE BUT TRY YOUR BEST TO PUT YOURSELF IN THEIR SHOES TO GRASP A BETTER UNDERSTAND OF WHAT THEY ARE GOING THROUGH TO BETTER HELP THEM.
Charlotte,
this is what helped me and how I partially dealt with our situation. I hope this helps you and glad I can help.
Lily
wife to 36 yr old husband diagnosed with SCC on 7/6/05, tongue dissection and radical neck dissection on 7/15/05, 2nd biopsy on 9/15/05 and found carcinoma in-situ. Starting radiation and chemo on Oct 05
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