Sara and Cindy,

As a former patient, I have much the same reaction as the responses above. Like Minnie, I wasn't looking for a whole lot from my husband other than to be there each day to hold me when I really needed it. Sometimes I think it was hard for him to comprehend how much pain I was feeling from the radiation, but he did everything he could to help (and he let me vent when I was screaming my lungs out in frustration).

It sounds like the two of you have put everything you could into your husbands' treatment and don't deserve to get the kind of response you're getting. Frankly, if I had John and Harry here in front of me, I think I'd have three words for them -- GET OVER IT! Yes, it's a horrible disease and the treatment feels like it's draining the life out of you, but when you're on the way to recovery it's time to move on with life, and make the best use of the time you have with your friends and family.

Cathy