I wish to apologize if the tone of my last post has upset you. Even though I am a survivor, I cannot know the pain and anguish you are going through in dealing with your loss. I suspect that with 20/20 hindsight, that we all might approach the difficult situations in our lives from a new angle. It must have been extremely hard for you to be torn between the hopes of the medical team as they offered to try new procedures, and the desires of your partner to make choices. It certainly ended up being a thankless position to be in. My own fears, angers, and frustrations frequently and insidiously seep into my postings at times. Again I ask for your understanding, and your forgiveness for creating any hurt or uncomfortableness in you with my words. Clearly you came here to offer help and what I ended up saying was less than helpful.

Brian, stage 4 oral cancer survivor. OCF Founder and Director. The first responsibility of a leader is to define reality. The last is to say thank you. In between, the leader is a servant.