Carol, it was a couple of weeks after I was diagnosed before I could even do a google searh on oral cancer. If I didn't take that step, it just wasn't real. After all, it couldn't be happening to ME!!

I think Davids on the mark. I agree that your body and mind protects itself from thngs that are simply too overwhelming, and let's itself deal with things at a slower pace.

Think back...it wasn't that long ago that your posts were full of denial and negative outlook. See how much that's changed?? I think it's the same reaction mentally.

There is no answer to that question; I've asked it a thousand times. It is what it is. He will get through the rest of treatment, and coming out the other side he (and you) will look back in a very short while and say that you didn't think you were capable of that.

While I'm like David in wishing I had never heard those words "you have cancer" I'm not sorry I have had this experience.

I learned a great deal about myself, and about my wife and children, and how important they really are to me.

I also learned to take life more seriously. It is precious, and we waste far too much time worrying about things not worth worrying about

Take care
Wayne