Hi Tami! Well, this is very difficult-I would not pressure her to do anything. More, give her lots of information and support her when she makes the decisions, you know? It is ultimately up to her. Having said that, I feel so sad for you and I so relate to how you feel. Ultimately, do you believe that we really have control over any of this crap-ola? Ugggh. I am so happy she's home and comfy. Have they talked about surgery? From what I've read, the dudes and gals here say the surgery is a breeze compared to the radiation/chemo. It sounds as though your mother would feel like sliding down a banister of razor blades would be a breeze compared to what she went through. How hard for you to be so far from her!