Again, thanks to each of you for your post. It is 4:30am & I am getting ready to leave for a week vacation in Florida with my mom & siblings, but I had to get on this site before I left. I have been reassured & supported so much by all of you & this is only my 2nd or 3rd post! Bob does not worry about the #s or the staging & I will try not to also. He is much better at living in the moment then I am. We are starting to see signs of "normalcy" again in our lives & Bob is eating by mouth daily now. Yesterday we went out to eat. While Bob just got soup, it was still a symbol of our lives returning to a bit of normal life activities. Thank you again!