Ed and Joanna,

Thankyou both for your input. Its a crazy situation but one that is going to be okay. With regards to the smoking, I told her (rather sheepishly, she is still my elder) that she couldn't smoke without supervision and she was ok with it. I think she really scared herself the other day and realised that it isn't just her anymore, we have 3 kids in this house. So I take her cigarettes away when she goes to bed with no complaints. Still a worry though, it's 8am and I just got home from work and I was concerned all night that something would happen. But I guess I have to give my husband credit, everyones still here. So on with the day.

Karen