Karen,

Sorry to hear things are reaching the boiling point. Vent all you want, we all go through that as caregivers or patients. When my mother had developed 4 brain tumors from mets from her ovarian cancer, she went into this feeding/cooking frenzy. One day she made about 3 gallons of oxtail soup and the next day she made about 2 gallons of chicken and noodles. Our refrigerator was stuffed as it was. We went to a church class and came back with the house full of smoke and her sound asleep in the bedroom having forgot she even went in to cook something. Her life was cooking. After about 20 big burns on the carpet I just gave up and replaced it after she was gone. I came home once and the home health care nurse that was filling in for the regular one that was on vacation had my mother sprawled out on the white leather couch, changing her ostomy bag. Needless to say, it was a mess and I was not kind to the nurse after my mother went back to bed in her bedroom. The oncology psychiatrist we were working with wanted us to hide all the knives (mom was getting a bit agitated at everything), turn off the gas to the stove when we left and keep the medicine available but controlled (she was contemplating suicide often).

You are an angel for being there and especially for your mother-in-law. It is a thankless and total stress position you have put yourself in. I will be praying daily for God to provide you with peace and comfort.

God Bless,

Ed