Joy...what disturbing news! My heart goes out to both of you. I am hoping that this node is simply reacting to all of the insulting activity nearby. I presume that your dad's ND was on just one side.

Try to put yourself into "neutral." HAHA.....but try it....try not to allow thoughts into your mind that you can't do anything about. It is what it is, and your anxiety can't change it. Try to get very busy. Go to daytime movies....or get a trashy book to read....or make jelly.....or go to the zoo....wander in a flea market....drive in the country....go to the beach....make cookies.....just fill up the time somehow and realize that worrying will not accomplish anything. Don't worry now. You don't know what to worry about!! Try to make yourself go into neutral and push the anxious thoughts to some corner of your brain. Just try it.....for 30 minutes. Get busy with something totally un-related to this darn disease!