Sharlee;
Telling your kids is tough, but sitting them down and explaining everything in an open, honest manner is what I think is the best approach. My kids are older and understood what was going on, but it was still the toughest conversation we have ever had as a family. They need to know, and deserve to know. I think once you share everything with them the older ones will be a huge help to you. By the way, we all cried that evening. I wasn't going to, but when they started I couldn't hold it back. It's OK to be scared and they may surprise you and have a great insight into your feelings. Everyone has their own way of dealing with something like this so best wishes and good luck with however you approach it.

Steve