Well I am having my surgery feb 9th ..fastly approaching , specially since i just found out jan22nd. The Dr I am seeing used to work at Sloan -kettering and I do have confidence in him , He spent alot of time answering 8 million questions as if there we no other Pts .and I have also spoke to on the phone a few times. I am going to lose atleast 1/4 of my tongue and have a selective neck dissection on the left side, I was a T1 but after further pathology info they are saying Closer to a T2. I have a CT of neck and Chest on MOn Feb 5th m, hopefully all clear so I dont have to go through the right side of neck too. I have been scared , nervous, frusttrated, But my kids dont see that, not much anyways, actaully I have let no one see it. Only cried in front of someone when I was diagnosed. I have 5 kids ranging in age from 6-13 . I want them to know it serious, I dont want them to be scared, but the arguing over nothing and that stuff I will and I think I do need a break from. Any ideas ? I just am being strong giving everyone the medical info I have like dr would ( not as good though LOL) and everyone is like OMG you are handling this so well and i cant believe you have researched so much and asked so many questions My response is I HAVE TO. I do think at some point I am going to crack the Closer the 9th comes , Maybe my not breaking and taking the medical info approach is my denial, but I think reality is going to hit and I dont want it to hit in front of my kids and I just need help or ideas in how to do this.