You are welcome Patty! I'll add to what I posted: It is posible that he is worried about the financial difficulties affecting you and other family. This is why I would get legal advice to protect what assets he has and to get the creditors off his back. The laws vary from state to state. I have heard that, in many states, death is similar to bankruptcy in how assets or debits are handled. Joe should have a will or at least a plan for this.

You (and other family) should be careful not to promise to any of his creditors (including medical) that you will take care of his debits or to co-sign anything.

GET THEE TO AN ATTORNEY!

Mark, 21 Year survivor, SCC right tonsil, 3 nodes positive, one with extra-capsular spread. I never asked what stage (would have scared me anyway) Right side tonsillectomy, radical neck dissection right side, maximum radiation to both sides, no chemo, no PEG, age 40 when diagnosed.