Debbie,

Yes, I know it is never easy no matter what the circumstances. I am 38 and Scott just turned 49. We had to tell my daughters today about the news, and my youngest cried and said, "But why will he die? I'm just 15 and our new family is so strong. He has to make it because we love each other!"

I wish it were that simple.

Wife of Scott: SCC, Stage I retromolar 10/02--33 rad; recurrence 10/03--Docetaxol, 5FU, Cisplatin; 1/04 radical right neck, hard palate, right tonsil; recurrence 2/04--mets to skin and neck; Xeloda and palliative care 3/04-4/04; died 5/01/04.