this is a tough situation. as a survivor, i can tell you that it meant alot to just have people there for me. the day of my surgery, i had a whole mob of relatives there. i didn't get to see them or talk to them, but it was a comfort to know their love and support was there for me when i needed it the most.

go home to your father and give him love and lots of hugs. just be there to provide support for all of your family. there is strength in numbers. just keep faith and hope alive in your hearts and you'll get through it. lean on each other. it sounds like you have a large family....take advantage of that. i know some people who had to go through this totally alone, and it really had a bad effect on them. your dad will feel the love from everyone and it will help him through.

i will pray for you and your family so that it all comes out well.