Veronica, I am appalled at what you and your mother were told! For heaven's sake, we could all be run over by a bus tomorrow too, but nobody worries about that. I suspect that your mother might benefit from antidepressants. Try hard to see this glass as half full, if you can. And at least for now, decide that the cancer IS gone and that it WON'T come back. I have a healthy respect for self-fulfilling prophesies, so try not to get into a negative mind set. From everything I have read, this is just about the worst time for your mother, but she will begin to feel better. Hang in there, and know that you can "vent" here anytime, as the folks on this board are wonderful and much more knowledgeable than I.
Joanna