Several moments of silence and "fare thee well" to Lynn (member 1197 for those who would like to search her posts).............................................................................................................................................................................. ...................................................................................................................................................................(Link to Lynn's last 50 postings http://www.oralcancerfoundation.org/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=recent_user_posts;u=00001197

Every time this happens I start to believe we need a shrink to help us through the loss. I have missed saying things I dearly wanted to say to several souls that have left us before I had my chance. I wish Lynn had let us know...There may be a tendancy to keep quiet when the end is near, to spare us from the reality of this disease. I know I can take it, I think I need to have it. It brings some closure. Lynn didn't know it but I was following her posts and situation closely. Because she was the same age (as me when I was diagnosed) and had young children (as do I) there was a connection that she may not have been aware of, out here in the cyber world.

As I am typing this I do realize I have been using (I) as in ME quite a bit. (back to the shrink again). Substitute WE if you want because I think I am not alone in these feelings. I also realize I am rambling....because I can't find the right words for this moment. I am leaning towards words like Erik K's four letter Hiku poetry with Uptown girls abbreviated option running a close second. frown

My heart is with the family Lynn leaves behind, may they find peace and comfort soon.

Mark, 21 Year survivor, SCC right tonsil, 3 nodes positive, one with extra-capsular spread. I never asked what stage (would have scared me anyway) Right side tonsillectomy, radical neck dissection right side, maximum radiation to both sides, no chemo, no PEG, age 40 when diagnosed.