Hi Betty,

I'm glad you made it to Vermont to be here for your sister. I'm sure she feels very comforted by your being there. If she's up to doing things for herself, let her. The road during radiation will most probably get rougher and the things she's doing now she may not want to do, say, 2 weeks from now. As for myself, when I'm nervous, scared, upset, etc., I always found cleaning the house a stress reliever so maybe her keeping busy is doing the same for her - relieving stress. Needless to say, while going thru treatments I cleaned the house a lot as much as my energy level would let me! I have a lot of scaring on my neck (both sides) and the muscle they took for my flap came from my stomach instead of my arm so it's not so visible but sure is ugly. But, hey, I don't care. I should hope that people love me for me - not for my physical appearance so don't let that get you or your sister down. Hang in there and keep us posted on how you're both doing. And as Helen said, take some time for yourself. You not only need it, but deserve it.

Hugs, Nancy